Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be reserved for couples. Love is love whether you have a partner or are loving on yourself.
Feb. 14 is right around the corner, and if you find yourself dreading seeing everyone coupled up and in love — don’t. We get it, all the #relationshipgoals and lovey dovey messages on your social media feed can get a tad nauseating — no one cares about your basic box of assorted chocolates and dozen mediocre red roses, Kris!
OK, back to self-love. You should definitely love yourself every day, but why not take the holiday of love to celebrate how amazing you are.
This year (and honestly every year) choo-choo-choose yourself.
Here are a few tips on how to be your best Valentine to date.
Write yourself a love letter
Have you looked in a mirror lately? Because, wow, you are gorgeous (inside and out). Why not write your bad self a love letter to show your appreciation?
Wellness practitioner Liana Naima suggests gifting yourself a love letter by using one of these prompts:
I love you because …
I appreciate you because …
I have grown into …
I recognize that …
This will give you time to reflect on all the reasons you love and appreciate yourself and see how much you’ve personally grown.
Take yourself on a movie date
OK, a solo movie date may sound a little bit sad at first, but hear us out. You don’t have to compromise on where to sit in the theater, take your pick. The (movie theater) world is your oyster.
You also don’t have to miss important scenes because your date is constantly asking questions about the plot. You never have to coordinate timing; you can take yourself to the movies whenever you want because you’re on no one’s time but your own.
Dance it out
No dancing partner? No problem. You’re your own best dance partner. Naima suggests creating a playlist of your favorite songs and just letting loose and dancing. She says this will help you playfully connect with your inner child.
“Dancing can help trigger confidence in your body and free you from self-judgment,” Naima says.
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Treat yo’ self to a spa day
Name one thing better than a relaxing day spent getting massages, pedicures and facials? We’ll wait.
This can go two ways: You can either take yourself to a spa, or you canengineer a spa day at home.
If you’re going with the latter option, you have full control over how simple or luxurious you want your spa day to be. The possibilities are endless, young grasshopper. Light some soothing candles for ambiance. Run a bubble bath with your favorite essential oils, and make yourself a face mask. Pop open a bottle of your favorite wine and kick back and relax.
Meditate on some chocolates
Did someone say chocolate?
The wellness blogger recommends buying a box of your favorite chocolates (a plus is that you don’t have to share the box with anyone) and meditating.
“Contemplate the wisdom of your heart: How does your heart feel? Does your heart feel open and accepting or closed and fearful?,” Naima said. “While savoring the chocolate, close your eyes, place one hand over your heart and breathe through any tension you may feeling.”
Naima says that meditation can improve your ability to be introspective and can make you more compassionate.
Maybe after a few hours of mediating and chocolates, you’ll be able to tolerate your friend’s fifth Instagram post about her bae.
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Spend it with your friends
Valentine’s Day is about love, which isn’t reserved just for significant others. If you love your friends (or at least really, really like them), consider spending it with them.
You can all get together at one of your homes and cook a meal together or even get dressed up and go on a nice dinner date. Buy or make each other gifts and shower each other with love.
It’s a great way to spend Feb. 14 if you really don’t feel like being alone.
Do you, boo
At the end of the day, Valentine’s Day is just another day. You can do everything to celebrate, or you can do absolutely nothing at all.
Want to wallow? Cool. Take your mom on a date? Awesome.
After all, the day is about you. Or not you, if you don’t feel like recognizing the holiday. We support you either way.
Published 12:09 PM EST Feb 12, 2019